When Isaac was 3, he started living in group foster homes. He had gone through abuse and neglect, and was acting out because of it.
At 10, he moved in with Hillory who became his therapeutic foster parent— she was trained to help kids with exceptional trauma.
Hillory bonded with Isaac and taught him how to be a part of the family so that at the end of it all, Isaac could feel that he truly belonged.
“We cooked and ate dinner together, watched movies, went grocery shopping and to Great Adventure,” she says. “I also taught him to make crafts, and I would bring him with me when I volunteered at the local senior citizen center. The older adults loved talking to Isaac.”
Hillory also bought him his first suit and tie for a formal event. “It was important to teach him how to have pride in himself and present himself well,” she says.
Isaac has since gained confidence and learned to trust others, especially Hillory.
Their relationship has changed both of their lives for the better.
Just 18 years old, pregnant and homeless, Linda thought her only option was to drop out of school. But the people she met at @familyconnectionsnj helped her find another way. She stayed in school, eventually got 2 jobs and found her own place to stay in. She even made the Deans List at community college!
Linda says, “I realized that there are people who will help you.” She learned to get what she wanted in life by working hard to reach her goals.
“When you have a good job and you’re taking care of yourself and your child, that’s the best feeling ever.”
When you give to the Holiday Fund, you are part of the amazing work of Family Connections. Thank you for helping build a greater New Jersey!
We’ve been thinking about the year-long state of “pivoting” that organizations have endured — groups all over the world— but especially in our home state of NJ.
Despite the challenges, these service agencies have found innovative ways to continue clothing, sheltering, feeding and serving people who are experiencing dire needs.
This year, with Valentine’s Day in mind, we’ve compiled fun and purposeful ways to show NJ some love!
Here are 14 creative ways to show love to New Jersey this Valentine’s Weekend.
Discover and visit a local treasure you’ve never experienced before. Get ideas by scouring the “Things To Do” page on the state’s travel and tourism site: https://www.visitnj.org/things-to-do.
Have you ever heard of attentional saturation? When we see items over and over again, we actually stop seeing them. Refresh your town memory with an “around the town scavenger hunt” which can be easily found by searching Pinterest.
Gather your officemates and conduct a “drive,” this month and gather goods to be invested back into the city through a local agency. To support Children’s Aid and Family Services, you can team up and host a Baby Basics supply drive, collecting diapers, wipes and formulas for local families.
Support justice and healing by becoming an advocate to those served by the Family Service League, or volunteer with Family Connections when you become a homework helper at a school-based program.
Take a “bubble walk” around your neighborhood or downtown on a cold day, spreading the love with your magical, freezing bubbles.
Ask kids to gather coins, while parents model with a haul of their own, and donate to the Holiday Fund, who loves New Jersey as much as you do.
Help Newark Day Center spread the word about their open enrollment for 3- and 4-year-old children. It’s easy — just share their Facebook page on your profile!
Instead of planning a luncheon for the office, gather safely and “attend” a Paint and Sip event to support the Nutley Family Service Bureau. FSB will deliver the art supplies to your door to create your very own masterpiece, based on “Love” by Robert Indiana.
Will you keep in touch? Leave a comment and let us know how you decided to celebrate NJ this Valentine’s Day. We can’t wait to hear your stories and see your pictures.
You can show love to the Holiday Fund any time with a donation of any size; the 10 reputable agencies we support serve individuals all year long. Contribute safely and easily at https://holidayfund.org/give/.
Children’s Aid and Family Services of New Jersey (CAFSNJ) shared some inspiring words from Mo’Nique last month in a video posted to their YouTube account. She was addressing young mothers who are receiving a lifeline through Zoe’s Place, a CAFSNJ effort.
“Anything you think you wanna do, you can. Take this moment to rethink your process and your steps. And when you leave, put them to work. Everybody deserves a second chance. So take your second chance and make it work for you.
Zoe’s Place is run by CAFSNJ and helps pregnant and parenting teens with a lifeline to the resources, housing, and advocacy they need to build a brighter future. They provide safe, 24-hour supervised housing to young mothers and pregnant young women in northern New Jersey.
Pregnant and parenting teens are, statistically, the most vulnerable population of youth in the country according to Zoe’s Place. And, while some young moms have the support of family and friends, others have no one in their support circle.
That’s why Zoe’s Place exists. “Zoe’s Place is the lifeline that so many young women need during this life-changing experience,” says CAFSNJ
And hopefully, as Mo’Nique says, this lifeline helps young moms pay it forward.
Last year, Zoe’s Place supported 14 teen moms and their families. We are so proud to support the work of CAFS serving this vulnerable population.
2021 has arrived, and if you’re like many Americans, you’ve got some resolutions written down for the year.
Many resolutions about things to try, do, achieve, better, etc, and there are ways to work in a core strategy of generosity into many of them.
Below are five tips for incorporating generosity into 2021 resolutions!
Organize your belongings Take stock of your things and keep only what you need. Consider donating your surplus to Thriftworks, a social enterprise run by the Urban League that employs individuals looking to gain skills for retail and customer service jobs.
Launch a new enterprise If you’ve been sitting on a business idea, now might be the time to act! Consider donating a portion of your proceeds to charity on certain holidays that are meaningful to you. Here are a few coming up:
Jan 20: Martin Luther King, Jr. Day of Service — #MLKDay
Feb 4: World Cancer Day — #WorldCancerDay
Feb 20: World Day of Social Justice — #SocialJusticeDay
Feb 29: Rare Disease Day — #RareDiseaseDay
Mar 8: International Women’s Day — #IWD21
Eat healthier Healthy meals start with healthy ingredients. As you shop for your own meal prep, why not help someone else with their meals too? The Catholic Charities needs volunteers to help seniors do grocery shopping for homebound seniors with no primary caregivers: http://www.ccannj.com/food_shopping.php
Foster new community Whether you’re new in town or have been in Jersey since you were born, there’s always room for more relationships and connections. Meet like-minded people of all ages when you volunteer with one of our agencies, who are always in need of someone with an extra hand and a big heart —
Chris needed a specific type of program to help him become the kind of father he wanted to be — one who could overcome his addictions and hangups, and learn to care well for himself and the needs of his kids.
Chris’s life was transformed — and his community was strengthened — through the Family Connections’ Strong Fathers program.
Before he came to Family Connections, Chris had been unemployed for 2 years and without a driver’s license. He had problems with family, anger, and substance abuse, and he was letting all of that get in the way of properly caring for his children.
He says he didn’t have motivation to get things done.
In the Strong Fathers program, he was taught about goal-setting, and once he began getting things done, felt satisfaction in his work. He expressed appreciation for his Family Connections counselor, saying:
“He’s my inspiration. He helped me with my anger, so now I catch myself before it happens. I let things slide off my back…most of all, he taught me patience with my children.”
Today, Chris is celebrating more than one year of sobriety. He has his driver’s license, a job and car, and joint custody of his children. Looking back on his time in the Strong Fathers program, Chris says:
“I had to do it for my children. They’re my motivation and my strength. I’ve graduated from Strong Fathers but I still go in to help the other men. I get support and direction and structure. Every time I go there, I learn something.
People say I’m a role model now. But I don’t see myself as a role model. I’m just a man, trying to take care of his kids.”
It’s inspiring to witness Chris’s healing overflow into his kids’ lives!
This is the power of equipping and educating. Your generosity makes stories like Chris’s possible.
Every donation to the Holiday Fund is funneled into programs that build a better future for our New Jersey neighbors. Imagine what would be possible if more fathers had access to programs like Strong Fathers from Family Connections.
Click here now to make a difference in the lives of families like Chris’s.
Mrs. F was in her eighties, frail with chronic health problems. She lived with and cared for her husband, who had health issues of his own.
But this married couple was unique — they were Holocaust survivors.
They had challenges: Mr. F suffered from severe depression. They only spoke Russian. Their ability to access help was limited.
The vulnerable couple didn’t have family to lean on, as most of their loved ones were lost to the Holocaust, and their daugher was living with her own mental health struggles.
They turned to JFS MetroWest, one of the Holiday Fund partner agencies, and everything changed.
To reduce the burden of care on Mrs. F, the couple began attending a Russian-speaking adult day care unit.
When Mrs. F needed hearing aids and was prepared to max out her credit cards to acquire them, JFS provided financial assistance. In addition, JFS provides ongoing case management, counseling and support.
Although the individuals are one-of-a-kind, this story is not unique!
When you donate to The Holiday Fund, individuals and families gain access to life-changing resources.